National Masturbation Month

Did you know that May is National Masturbation Month???? Who knew?!?! I am so behind! But now I know and I'm going to get on it!

Tell me... what is your favorite way to masturbate? What do you think about or fantasize? Do you have toys you like to use? Male/female, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this!

I have a bunch of toys I love for masturbating. Of course my hand will do in a pinch, but I am an intensity addict... I like very intense, very fast, and the Hitachi Magic Wand easily provides... INSTANT INTENSITY... and I mean *intense!* If you are a man introducing this to a woman for the first time, my recommendation is to hand it to her and let her do everything, Tips about the Hitachi... I like to put a washcloth between myself and the wand most of the time... it diffuses the sensation just enough to be verrrrrrrrrrrry nifty for me. Plus it makes cleanup a snap! :)

Toys in Babeland is a great place to buy toys... women owned and operated, I have been to their store in NYC. I loved it because they had all the toys OUT of the packages for you to try. Batteries in 'em and everything. So you can hold it in your hand, turn it on, feel the buzz for real! I love that. :)

Another toy I love are bullets. Any kind of bullet, really, but some are better than others. In bullets price very often indicates quality.. that is *sometimes* true with other toys, but it is almost always true with bullets, at least in my experience. Usually a cheapo bullet will give cheap vibrations too. Not to mention break easily. And at the rate I use toys, they need to be *quality.* Now go grab a toy and some good lube and get to work celebrating National Masturbation Month!

Dirty Stuff Mainstreamed...

I would be horrifically remiss to not mention Jeff Gannon in the mainstreaming of alternative sexuality. Bushies think I don't like Jeff because I love to bring him into debate, but in fact I *love* Jeff. Seriously, dude, wherever you are... you GO with your bad self. Next, *I* want to go ask Bush some questions. I can be the bisexual horny female progressive putting it hard to Bush. (Not that he'd answer, not that it would matter, not that it would change a damned thing as the Bush admins irontight grip of the media has already proven.)

But, back to mainstreaming stuff. I knew ages ago when I saw Jenna Jameson quoted in a celeb gossip magazine, that porn was working its way into the mainstream. Jenna was also named FHM's #24 sexiest woman of the year. I mean, what other PORN actress has ever been quoted in mainstream media?

Not counting horror stories or retractions of previous sluttiness, that is. Deep Throat's Linda Lovelace was interviewd by the media, but not for anything fun like "what's trendy now." Rather, she was interviewed to repudiate porn, to talk about the evils of porn. Which porn may have been for her, and of course, IS for many people now. (Tho this is changing... more on that topic another day!) Traci Lords talked about being victimized and exploited as a teen, and is on to different things now, but not while enjoying porn, loving porn, and embracing their sexuality.

BTW Jenna Jameson is prettier in person. I mean she is just unreal pretty. Go Jenna!

Check out this article about a lawyer who moonlights as a porn star. This is very, very kewl because he is *loving* it, everyone knows about it, and no one has an issue with it. The world is changing I tell you.

Here is Tera Patrick, now a columnist for FHM-UK. How kewl is that?

It's comforting to me to know that while the radical right is trying to yank the barest minimal sex education from public school curriculums and inserting a hefty dose of creationism instead, that the majority of the world is moving towards sexual freedom instead of away from it.

*smooch*
Tamara

Post-Election Thoughts....

It's amazing to me that people who live a BDSM lifestyle would be on the bandwagon of hating gays. Wow guys, here's a clue for you. All those whacko faux "Christians" who hate gays (Christ's message was NOT about hate. And hate is not a family value!), would happily hate you too! Legislate you out of existence. Lynch you at the first opportunity. It's not about gays... it's about ANYone who is different, ANYone who dares to dream that we don't all have to be clones, ANYone who says that they have the right to express their sexuality as they choose, with consenting adults. I am not referring to Christians who practice tolerance and forgiveness... I'm talking about the ones leading the fight to legislate gays out of existence, who scream things like "God hates fags!" (Boy that's Christian of you), and who believe that being gay is a mental illness. Guess what? Lots of people consider kink, or swinging, or any form of alternative sexuality, a mental illness too. (Aside: Where the heck did that bizzare monogamy idea come from anyways? Didn't every gosh darned dude in the Bible have a zillion wives plus concubines? Monogamy? Pshaw!)

Sex Tip of the Week...

Use sugar free mints to keep your breath sparkling fresh or add just the right amount of stimulation to oral fun. There are so many reasons for this! Once I was visited by a gent who thought a cherry lifesaver was a mint. *sigh* I wound up sticky from head to toe and I can tellya that I did not remember the experience fondly... yuck! Not only does sugar in mints cause totally yuckified stickiness, but sugar in the pussy is a bad, bad idea. I didn't know this until recently, but altoids have sugar as well! This is about keeping that breath tingly fresh, maybe adding a little tingle in your sexual adventures, not rotting your teeth out of your head, and having safer sex by not causing unhappy pussies! BTW, I'd avise trying the mint route before trying those listerine strippy things unless you're into sadism (which, hey, that's kewl!)... at least with a mint you can STOP if it's too intense! ;)

About Blowfish

Blowwfish.com: How could I not begin by mentioning my very favorite ever toy store? You can get a Hitachi Magic Wand here for $40, vs. spending $70 or more in most walk in sex toy stores... that calls for a big WOO HOO! I also love their Joyberry and this nifty little anal toy called the Slim Jim Probe, that even an anal wuss like myself loves... what a great idea for beginning anal play! I love this site, and I love their descriptions of toys which I have found to be, almost always, dead on.

Check out this nifty new site, Water Bondage. Brought to you by the amazingly crazy kinky folks over at Hogtied, this site involves putting women in all kinds of precarious, erotic, torturous situations in water. Having been bound in water myself I can tellya... it's definitely an interesting experience! This link takes you to a page full of crazy hot sexy sample pics and descriptions. Yummy!

One more for you... Check out this gallery of videos from RealFuckingCouples... holy moly! This site focuses on real live swingers who love being watched... which I guess means they are exhibitionist slutty swingers. My kinda people! :)

My very first dirty blog post...

Well actually, gosh, do I have to be *dirty* all the time? I mean it is my gosh darned blog, right? I can be as dirty or not as I want to be. Hehe :) Where to begin? There is simply so much to share, and the hardest part is always figuring out where to start.

I guess I'll start by introducing myself for those of you that don't know me. I know it says it on the site, but my name is Tamara. I'm a horny, smart, pretty, sexy, slutty, chick who works in the adult and non-adult industries... adult webmaster, star of her own little websites (I don't sell my image), journalist at heart, writer, swinger, escort, submissive slut... well, I guess that's a good start. ;) I've been on the web in one form or another straight from 1997 on... and I've always loved the power and potential of the internet.

Speaking of which, I believe the Internet is in the midst of creating a sexual revolution. Well, you are HERE aren't you? Reading my dirty lil' blog? That says something right there, doesn't it? 10 years ago you probably would've been reading a porn magazine... if anything. You certainly wouldn't have had an interactive forum to read about sex where you can respond and take part... you certainly didn't have a *universe* of free and pay for play porn available right at your fingertips... you certainly could not easily google any fantasy sex you might think of to find out more about it. It's made it possible for anyone, anywhere, to safely delve into any fantasy they have... you can keep it cyber or take it real time, and you have the ability to control everything and make it safe, safe, safe!!!!! This was simply not possible in the past. More and more people are getting into BDSM, swinging, escorting... all the things I'm into LOL! Because it's safer, more accessible, and easier to become involved with.

On that note, I also believe that the conservatives in this country are getting more conservative... (if you are a republican and reading this, I have only one word for you... wtf?) and the liberals are getting more liberal. I believe the country is moving further and further apart, politically.

I guess that'll do for a start... I have lots more though, so stay tuned. And please DO comment. That is the whole point of doing this with BLOG software vs. just making webpages with every entry. So you can respond and comment!

*smooch*
Tamara